We all have those days when something inside us just feels heavy. It might be anger after a difficult conversation, jealousy that creeps in quietly, or sadness that comes without warning. Hard feelings are part of being human, but most of us aren’t taught how to handle them well. Instead, we react. Or, in psychological terms, we project.

We’re living in a time that overwhelms us with possibility.Travel, career changes, new relationships, endless paths for self-development—choices are everywhere. And alongside all of that, there’s often this inner voice, this quiet (or loud) belief that says: “If I try hard enough, I should be able to have it all.”

Have you ever held back tears because you didn’t want to seem “too much”? Or swallowed your anger so you wouldn’t be judged? So many of us carry emotional weight silently—not because we want to, but because we don’t feel we have a safe place to set it down. This is where emotional scarcity begins.

You’re tired of carrying what can’t be changed. You’re doing your best. You’re trying to move on. But somehow, your mind keeps circling back to what already happened.

Have you ever wondered why your mind keeps circling back to someone—even long after the relationship or contact has ended?

There’s something about Vienna that invites reflection. Maybe it’s the architecture, maybe the history — or maybe it’s the quiet presence of thinkers who once walked its streets, stirring up ideas that changed the world. Today, as I sat in a café where Freud himself once regularly had coffee, I felt the weight of that legacy.

We've all been there - trapped in an endless loop of thoughts, replaying a conversation, regretting a decision, or obsessing over what might happen next. It's exhausting, yet somehow, we can’t seem to let it go. Why does our mind do this to us?

We all know that feeling of anxiety before going on a first date. The butterflies in your stomach, the overthinking about what to say or do—it’s a whirlwind of emotions. This anxiety often stems from the fear of the unknown, but the good news is, you can take small, intentional steps to make the experience more enjoyable and increase your chances of scoring a second date.

I’ve always been a shy person — for as long as I can remember. As a child, I blushed easily. Just being called on in class or speaking in front of others would send a wave of warmth to my cheeks and a knot to my stomach. I admired the kids who seemed so at ease, who joked freely, raised their hands with confidence, and lit up every room they entered. I wondered why it felt so different for me — why my voice hesitated, why I felt so exposed under the spotlight.

Changing our mindset is much like learning a new language. When we start learning a language, we begin with individual words, assigning meaning to each. Through repetition and meaningful associations, we build sentences and practice until fluency emerges. This fluency enables us to express ourselves confidently and easily connect with others. Similarly, transforming our mindset involves small, deliberate steps that accumulate over time, leading to profound and lasting personal growth.

"The more we chase perfection, the farther we drift from ourselves."

Do you sometimes have thoughts that keep coming back, bringing doubt and making you question yourself? Do they hold you back from pursuing something you truly wish to do?

Have you ever met someone who instantly draws you in? Not just because of their looks, but because of something deeper, something magnetic? What is it about certain people that makes them so effortlessly charming?

Have you ever caught yourself brushing off an emotion because it felt too uncomfortable to deal with? I know I have. Sometimes, we push feelings aside, thinking they’ll disappear if we ignore them long enough. But the truth is, they don’t just vanish—they find other ways to make themselves known, whether through stress, tension, or that overwhelming exhaustion that seems to come out of nowhere.

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a mental loop, repeatedly replaying the same thoughts, worries, or regrets without finding any resolution? This experience, often referred in Psychology to as “ruminating thoughts”, can feel overwhelming and exhausting. It’s as if your mind is chewing over the same problem again and again, but instead of reaching clarity, you only deepen your distress.

Have you ever caught yourself blaming someone else for something deep down you know is actually on you? Or maybe you’ve been on the receiving end of someone’s misplaced guilt, carrying the weight of something that was never yours to begin with? This is what psychology calls guilt transferring - a defense mechanism where people shift responsibility to others to avoid facing uncomfortable emotions.

Have you ever wondered why you feel a certain way? Why some emotions seem out of your control? Why certain thoughts keep repeating in your mind? Therapy is a space to explore these questions and uncover the deeper layers of your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors.

Self-pity whispers the same story over and over: “I am unlucky. Life is unfair. Nothing ever works out for me.” The more we repeat it, the more we believe it. And slowly, it chips away at our self-worth.

Therapy is often seen as a tool to "fix problems," but in reality, it's much more than that! It's a path to self-awareness, emotional mastery, and genuine transformation. Just like going to the gym reshapes your body, therapy reshapes your mind. And since our minds shape our reality, the impact of therapy goes far beyond the session itself.

Have you ever held back your opinion or success story because you feared sounding arrogant? Confidence and arrogance are often confused—not because they look the same, but because many people aren't used to seeing someone own their worth without apology.

We’ve all been there—and for many of us, it happens more often than we’d like to admit.A moment of tension, a conversation that caught us off guard, or just a burst of emotion—and suddenly, we say something we wish we hadn’t.

For a long time, I thought that accepting people meant keeping them close, no matter what. I believed that being understanding and kind meant saying “yes” to everyone who wanted to be part of my life. But that belief exhausted me. It led to situations where I felt drained, misunderstood, and, honestly, disconnected from myself. I felt life was heavy.

Have you ever said “yes” to something just because you didn’t want to feel left out? Or caught yourself scrolling through Instagram and suddenly felt like everyone else is living a better life than you?

In our fast-paced world, relationships often take a backseat to work, responsibilities, and the many distractions pulling us in different directions. Yet, at the heart of every strong connection lies an often-overlooked skill: emotional awareness. The ability to understand, manage, and express our emotions, and to empathize with others, can profoundly improve the quality of our relationships.

Have you ever met someone who said all the right things, but something just felt... off? Maybe their words were smooth, their promises convincing, yet deep down, you sensed a disconnect. When that happens, we often question ourselves, wondering if we’re overanalyzing or if our intuition is picking up on something real.

Letting go is one of the hardest decisions we face in life. Whether it's a relationship or a friendship, the fear of change and uncertainty often keeps us stuck in situations that no longer bring us happiness. But deep down, we usually know when something isn’t right. The challenge is trusting ourselves enough to act on it.

When we interact with others with politeness and empathy, we create deeper connections, but what truly sets us apart is how we make others feel. The way we express ourselves can foster empathy and strengthen the bond between words and emotions—almost as if the body feels what the heart can hear.

We all have bad days. Maybe you wake up feeling off, or overwhelmed by too many things happening at once. Everything seems harder than usual, and even the smallest things irritate you. That’s part of being human. Honestly, I feel some sort of sadness and lack of motivation once or twice a week. But for me, it’s like a short rain - after a few hours, the sun comes out again.

Communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship—we hear it all the time. Yet, implementing good communication in our daily lives with our partners can be challenging. Have you ever said something to your partner that you deeply regretted? Don’t worry; you’re not alone—about 95% of people have felt the same way.

I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve doubted myself. How many times I’ve started something with excitement, only to feel that familiar voice creeping in—“What if it doesn’t work? What if you fail? What if you’re just wasting your time?” Sound familiar?

We all have moments of uncertainty. It's part of being human. But what happens when that uncertainty doesn't come from within — when it’s subtly planted, over and over again, by someone close to us?

As a psychologist, my journey of learning is not limited to books, theories, or professional settings. Over time, I’ve discovered that being a psychologist is also about developing a deeper understanding of myself and the way I navigate life. Through my profession, I’ve gained insights that have not only shaped my approach to helping others but have also profoundly transformed the way I live my own life. Here are some of the key lessons I’ve learned that you could also start implementing in your daily life:

Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why does this keep happening to me?”You thought you’d learned your lesson. You promised yourself this time would be different.And yet, here you are again—heart racing, walking on eggshells, tangled in another emotional rollercoaster… just with a new face.

I used to believe that holding onto resentment kept me safe—that if I let go, I’d somehow be saying what happened didn’t matter. But over time, I learned something that changed everything: letting go of resentment is not about them. It’s about reclaiming my own peace.

We live in a world where social media constantly showcases happiness, success, and the illusion of a perfect life. A carefully curated image of someone smiling on a beach, in a luxurious home, or surrounded by an ideal family can make us think, They have it all. But do they? Behind every seemingly perfect picture lies an unseen reality: worries, struggles, and imperfections that never make it into the frame.

We often expect others to think, feel, and act like we do—almost as if they carry the same blueprint for love, care, and connection that we do. But the truth is, they don’t. They are not us.

Scrolling through social media, you come across a post that resonates deeply. Maybe it describes a pattern you recognize in yourself—self-sabotage, people-pleasing, or fear of intimacy. You nod in agreement, feeling seen and understood. But then what? Psychology posts can offer valuable insights, helping you reflect on your emotions, behaviors, and relationships. They might even give you the motivation to make a change. But insights alone don’t lead to transformation. 

I used to think that being hard on myself was the only way to improve. That if I wasn’t constantly pointing out my flaws, I’d never grow. But the truth? Self-criticism didn’t make me better—it made me smaller. It led to overthinking, self-sabotage, and this constant feeling that I wasn’t enough.

The “I love you” left unspoken. The apology we never gave. The “I need help” swallowed by pride or fear. These words don’t disappear. They stay with us—in quiet moments, in unfinished stories, in the spaces between what was said and what was truly felt. They linger like echoes in a room that once held connection but now feels a little colder, a little emptier.

There’s a unique kind of pain that comes when we lose trust in someone we deeply cared about. It’s not just disappointment—it feels like something inside of us cracked open. Maybe it was a friend, a partner, a family member—someone we once felt safe with. And when that safety is broken, it leaves us confused, hurt, angry, and often questioning ourselves.

Vanity. A word that often triggers discomfort, judgment, or even shame—especially among women. It’s frequently associated with arrogance, superficiality, or a desperate need for attention. Society tells us vanity is the opposite of simplicity, humility, or authenticity. But what if we’ve misunderstood it?

Ever found yourself irritated by someone for no clear reason? Maybe it's a co-worker who always has something to say, a friend who tries to control every plan, or that random person who just rubs you the wrong way. And you’re left wondering, why does this bug me so much?

Did you know that letting go of resentment is a choice we can make to reclaim our inner peace? 

We all procrastinate from time to time, but have you ever wondered why? Procrastination isn’t just about poor time management or laziness—it’s a complex psychological response influenced by our emotions, fears, and cognitive patterns. Research in psychology sheds light on some of the key reasons behind this habit.

Let’s be honest: motivation isn’t always there when we need it. Some days, even getting out of bed feels like a battle, let alone tackling big goals. If you’re feeling stuck, unmotivated, or just plain exhausted by the pressure to stay productive, you’re not alone.

We’ve all been there. A conversation turns sharp, someone says something that hits a tender spot, and suddenly—before we even realize it—we’ve said or done something we didn’t mean. Later, we sit with regret, asking ourselves, “Why did I react like that?”

Learning to detach is not an easy process. It requires the courage to release what is beyond our control and trust in the flow of life.

Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of doubt, questioning your choices, or hesitating to take action? This inner conflict often stems from a lack of self-knowledge. When we aren’t fully aware of our values, desires, and fears, decision-making becomes a struggle, leading to stress and self-doubt.